I used to self-host because I liked tinkering. I worked tech support for a municipal fiber network, I ran Arch, I enjoyed the control. The privacy stuff was a nice bonus but honestly it was mostly about having my own playground. That changed this week when I watched ICE murder a woman sitting in her car. Before you roll your eyes about this getting political - stay with me, because this is directly about the infrastructure we’re all running in our homelabs. Here’s what happened: A woman was reduced to a data point in a database - threat assessment score, deportation priority level, case number - and then she was killed. Not by some rogue actor, but by a system functioning exactly as designed. And that system? Built on infrastructure provided by the same tech companies most of us used to rely on before we started self-hosting. Every service you don’t self-host is a data point feeding the machine. Google knows your location history, your contacts, your communications. Microsoft has your documents and your calendar. Apple has your photos and your biometrics. And when the government comes knocking - and they are knocking, right now, today - these companies will hand it over. They have to. It’s baked into the infrastructure. Individual privacy is a losing game. You can’t opt-out of surveillance when participation in society requires using their platforms. But here’s what you can do: build parallel infrastructure that doesn’t feed their systems at all. When you run Nextcloud, you’re not just protecting your files from Google - you’re creating a node in a network they can’t access. When you run Vaultwarden, your passwords aren’t sitting in a database that can be subpoenaed. When you run Jellyfin, your viewing habits aren’t being sold to data brokers who sell to ICE. I watched my local municipal fiber network get acquired by TELUS. I watched a piece of community infrastructure get absorbed into the corporate extraction machine. That’s when I realized: we can’t rely on existing institutions to protect us. We have to build our own. This isn’t about being a prepper or going off-grid. This is about building infrastructure that operates on fundamentally different principles:
Communication that can’t be shut down: Matrix, Mastodon, email servers you control
File storage that can’t be subpoenaed: Nextcloud, Syncthing
Passwords that aren’t in corporate databases: Vaultwarden, KeePass
Media that doesn’t feed recommendation algorithms: Jellyfin, Navidrome
Code repositories not owned by Microsoft: Forgejo, Gitea
Every service you self-host is one less data point they have. But more importantly: every service you self-host is infrastructure that can be shared, that can support others, that makes the parallel network stronger. Where to start if you’re new:
Passwords first - Vaultwarden. This is your foundation. Files second - Nextcloud. Get your documents out of Google/Microsoft. Communication third - Matrix server, or join an existing instance you trust. Media fourth - Jellyfin for your music/movies, Navidrome for music.
If you’re already self-hosting:
Document your setup. Write guides. Make it easier for the next person. Run services for friends and family, not just yourself. Contribute to projects that build this infrastructure. Support municipal and community network alternatives.
The goal isn’t purity. You’re probably still going to use some corporate services. That’s fine. The goal is building enough parallel infrastructure that people have actual choices, and that there’s a network that can’t be dismantled by a single executive order. I’m working on consulting services to help small businesses and community organizations migrate to self-hosted alternatives. Not because I think it’ll be profitable, but because I’ve realized this is the actual material work of resistance in 2025. Infrastructure is how you fight infrastructure. We’re not just hobbyists anymore. Whether we wanted to be or not, we’re building the resistance network. Every Raspberry Pi running services, every old laptop turned into a home server, every person who learns to self-host and teaches someone else - that’s a node in a system they can’t control. They want us to be data points. Let’s refuse.
What are you running? What do you wish more people would self-host? What’s stopping people you know from taking this step?
EDIT: Appreciate the massive response here. To the folks in the comments debating whether I’m an AI: I’m flattered by the grammar check, but I’m just a guy in his moms basement with too much coffee and a background in municipal networking. If you think “rule of three” sentences are exclusive to LLMs, wait until you hear a tech support vet explain why your DNS is broken for the fourth time today.
More importantly, a few people asked about a “0 to 100” guide - or even just “0 to 50” for those who don’t want to become full time sysadmins. After reading the suggestions, I want to update my “Where to start” list. If you want the absolute fastest, most user-friendly path to getting your data off the cloud this weekend, do this:
The Core: Install CasaOS, or the newly released (to me) ZimaOS. It gives you a smartphone style dashboard for your server. It’s the single best tool I’ve found for bridging the technical gap. It’s appstore ecosystem is lovely to use and you can import docker compose files really easily.
The Photos: Use Immich. Syncthing is great for raw sync, but Immich is the first thing I’ve seen that actually feels like a near 1:1 replacement for Google Photos (AI tagging, map view, etc.) without the privacy nightmare.
The Connection: Use Tailscale. It’s a zero-config VPN that lets you access your stuff on the go without poking holes in your firewall.
I’m working on a Privacy Stack type repo that curates these one click style tools specifically to help people move fast. Infrastructure is only useful if people can actually use it. Stay safe out there.
As with any privacy, security, and anonymity efforts, it takes work. Nothing I am doing can’t be accomplished by someone else once the work is put in because I possess no special skills or certs on my wall to reflect any special skills. Just reading a lot, doing, screwing it up, rinse/repeat ad nauseam. We live in a world of convenience, where ‘someone else’ does the work and we capitalize on their efforts, and it’s this point where I see most people falling off the wagon.
Additionally, the average Joe really doesn’t have a firm grasp on what happens between the time you click a link in your browser to the time it returns with your webpage. They definitely don’t realize the preponderance of traffic being generated even on a PC at rest. They may see adverts taking up real estate on their computer screen, but no clue about what’s going on behind the pretty graphics. To them it’s akin to advertising on a billboard, which it’s far more insidious.
Then there’s the obligatory ‘I’m not technologically inclined’, especially from those in my generation of old heads who are stubborn cusses for the most part. However, for the younger, upwardly mobile, youngsters, there is the element of time. For the average family in this economy, it takes both adults working to make ends meet. They get up every morning, go to work, come home exhausted, spend a little quality time with the kids, and it’s off to collapse in bed, only to do it over and over again. On the weekends, there are extracurricular activities for the kids, quality time with the family, catching up on any household chores…and then it’s Monday. They don’t have the time nor the inclination to learn how to stand up a Linux server.
I’ve got a couple friends who bought the equipment, and I set it all up for them, and administer any thing remotely. It does become a headache sometimes. Users cause issues. Luckily it’s only a couple.
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You nailed it, the “I’m not techy” thing is often just a shield people use because they are simply exhausted by this economy, and time is the one resource Big Tech steals that we can’t ever get back. I’ve spent a lot of time teaching seniors at a library program, and I’ve seen firsthand how that “convenience” is a trap designed to keep people from even looking under the hood to see what’s actually happening to their data.
You are right about the remote admin headache too, that’s exactly why the movement needs to shift from just “hobbyist favors” to actual, reliable infrastructure that doesn’t break every time an adult in the house clicks a link. If we don’t make these sovereign nodes as easy as a light switch, people will always fall back into the arms of a corporation just to get through their Monday. We have to be the ones who put in the work to make the “resistance” feel like less of a chore and more like a utility.
That’s a long row to hoe. However, I see a lot of very capable mini-servers using Lenovo and that makes me feel better. We live in a digital world now where real life and digital life are co-blended. I’ve always felt that in this digital world, each and every household should have a server. If I were a much younger man, I’ve often toyed with the idea of setting up mini-server racks to sell. But, I’m far beyond being a younger man now, and so I hope some young entrepreneur will bring that to fruition.
You are a better man than I Gunga Din. I’ve had a computer in front of me since the mid 70s, but a lot of my brethren shit on the notion of computers, giving that ‘…back in my day we didn’t need computers’, and the standard ‘uphill both ways in the snow’ trope. That’s a hard nut to crack because you have to want to learn before you can learn. I know people my age can learn. They damn sure don’t have much problem learning Facebook or TikTok. LOL