Hello! I’m new to self hosting and networking stuff.
Welcome to the club! Explore, learn, have fun on your selfhosting journey.
But I’m very afraid of exposing the server to the internet and it being hacked or such. I know there’s something called Tailscale but I’m not sure if that’s what I need.
What I have done is use Cloudflare Tunnels/Zero Trust free tier and Tailscale as an overlay on the server. With Cloudflare Tunnels/Zero Trust, you don’t need to fiddle with NAT, UFW, or any of that. You install it on your server and it punches through all of that and creates a tunnel between your server and endpoint. You will need a FQDN that you can change the nameservers on to the ones Cloudflare will assign you. Cloudflare will sell you a domain name, but I know a lot of folks use NamesCheap or Pork Bun.
As far as consulting AI for help, and at the risk of being down voted, I would utilize it for basic things you might need some clarification on. I would be very cautious of copying and pasting code generated with AI as sometimes it can be in error. Plus, you should really never rip code from the internet and deploy it on a production server until you really get some experience and time under your belt in order to be able to spot problems with AI code. Claude is good, Grok and Lumo are decent.
As far as the arr stack, I’ll leave that to others.
ETA: Get in the habit of documenting everything you do on your server. All the commands, everything. It will save your butt in the long run. I usually open Notepad ++ and write everything there. Afterwards, I clean up the notes and transfer them to Obsidian for archival and future reference. Do not get suckered into the idea that you will remember everything you’ve done 6 months down the road. You probably won’t and it will be frustrating troubleshooting.



If I had equipment that would run AI locally, I’d be on it.