I’m becoming a grandpa at 43. Mildly infuriating, 'cause there are way worse things in life.

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    19 and 17 year olds being parents sounds terrible to me. Kids raising kids.

    It’s a decision but I’m predicting issues

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      I was 19 when my first was born. Can say it wrecked my life for years, and I was not even legally allowed to see him for 16 years.

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          An asshole in the child services department. My kid’s other parent was over heard talking about a dream involving me. It was taken as fact. I was told I was not allowed contact or face prison time. Because of this I sought to terminate my parental rights. The same person told my ex that I wanted nothing to do with my kid and they should never contact me.

          I met my kid the day after birth, stayed for 2 days before I had to get back home. We lived about 500 miles apart at the time. I had already moved 2000 miles to be closer to them after they left college.

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      Let’s be real, 85% of the problem with being a young parent is money. The other 15% is maturity. With 85% of the problem solved it won’t be so bad

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        I’d say it’s closer to 50/50. Immature or unprepared parents can absolutely wreck a childhood; if all they have is money, you can expect either an arrogant little shit or a kid with lots of mental health problems.

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        It’s also a really new relationship and people change a lot at that age. I’m worried but hopefully they’ll be alright