Video games and hiking are my two major “for fun” time expenditures
I’ve seen too many women complain about dudes approaching them
I hung out in a local coffee shop and met a couple of people, but no women (half the time if there were any there they seemed either much younger or much older … the other half of the time they’d show up and never come back so a cold approach was the only option)
… what the hell am I supposed to do other than use these apps society?
If you like hiking, you might also enjoy indoor rock climbing. It’s more social and fun than a gym and you will have the opportunity to interact with a lot of the same people repeatedly. You might even have some beginners groups in you area to get started. Meetup.com is good for finding groups like that.
I actually did try rock climbing, my ex and I did it.
I proposed going to first time we dated, she got into it while we were split, I would go a few times a month with her, and then basically haven’t been in a few months since we split.
The climbing gym in my area is on the other side of town and just constantly PACKED and I was also never very good at it … plus I’m colorblind and the routes are color coded which makes it even trickier … so it’s not really my cup of tea.
But yeah, I’ve done it probably 15 times or so and have my own shoes.
I’ll probably give it another shot (this time with friends) once it gets cold again (I’m in NE Ohio).
Meet people online via shared interests. I’m not one to tout Reddit, but really engaging in niche communities there gives you wide exposure specifically targeted. Don’t expect immediate results, but it is a valid method.
I mean, tell that to my ex-fiancee where it took us a year to get engaged after meeting on Reddit. Then Covid hit and we couldn’t meet. We still talk, years later, but now we’re in “old friends” mode.
Yeah … I appreciate the effort but I don’t think that’s a real answer.
I don’t want to date half way across the country or world … or slide into other people’s DMs (which is something girls ALSO complain about dudes doing).
At that point if the answer is “someone’s going to be possibly uncomfortable anyways” I’m better off just doing the cold approach where I can at least read body language.
Not to mention there are a ton of elements of attraction that just don’t work on a forum.
Honestly my biggest problem is:
… what the hell am I supposed to do other than use these apps society?
Join a hiking group/club, and don’t do it with the express intent of dating. I’m not saying don’t hope, but don’t because you enjoy the activity
Hell even if you go to church, I’ve had a real bad time crushing on people from church. Can’t recommend it
One guy advises “collect micromarriages”, which are like micromorts but for relationships instead of death https://www.astralcodexten.com/p/theres-a-time-for-everyone
I don’t know shit about relationships
If you like hiking, you might also enjoy indoor rock climbing. It’s more social and fun than a gym and you will have the opportunity to interact with a lot of the same people repeatedly. You might even have some beginners groups in you area to get started. Meetup.com is good for finding groups like that.
Good luck out there!
I actually did try rock climbing, my ex and I did it.
I proposed going to first time we dated, she got into it while we were split, I would go a few times a month with her, and then basically haven’t been in a few months since we split.
The climbing gym in my area is on the other side of town and just constantly PACKED and I was also never very good at it … plus I’m colorblind and the routes are color coded which makes it even trickier … so it’s not really my cup of tea.
But yeah, I’ve done it probably 15 times or so and have my own shoes.
I’ll probably give it another shot (this time with friends) once it gets cold again (I’m in NE Ohio).
Meet people online via shared interests. I’m not one to tout Reddit, but really engaging in niche communities there gives you wide exposure specifically targeted. Don’t expect immediate results, but it is a valid method.
Nope, then you get people complaining that “this is not a dating spot”.
I mean, tell that to my ex-fiancee where it took us a year to get engaged after meeting on Reddit. Then Covid hit and we couldn’t meet. We still talk, years later, but now we’re in “old friends” mode.
Yeah … I appreciate the effort but I don’t think that’s a real answer.
I don’t want to date half way across the country or world … or slide into other people’s DMs (which is something girls ALSO complain about dudes doing).
At that point if the answer is “someone’s going to be possibly uncomfortable anyways” I’m better off just doing the cold approach where I can at least read body language.
Not to mention there are a ton of elements of attraction that just don’t work on a forum.
But hourslong calls with a Scottish lass? Would you turn down the opportunity to have that in your ear?