• Fredselfish@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Sounds like my son. He hates sharing his music no matter what it is. Same with videos. It’s so stupid. Just tell me and move on why is the 21 pilots song you’re listening to need to be top secret.

    • Ech@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      This is not a comment on you, but I do the same thing and have come to realize it’s at least in part a response to being judged in some way (or feeling judged at least) over things I shared with my family, so now I just don’t share.

      If it’s important to you, it might be worth having a conversation about why they are withholding and, if it’s for similar reasons, addressing why they feel that way and assuring them you’ll do your best to keep them from feeling bad about sharing.

      • Fredselfish@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        I keep trying and always assure him just interested in his life and never will judge him for his taste in stuff. I mean we enjoy shows and movies together and we play games together. But YouTube videos and music he won’t share.

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      Music and entertainment tastes in general tend to be quite personal, so it’s probably a bit of insecurity. He’ll get over it, just explain that it’s not a test, you’re just chatting. Maybe share some of yours first or something

      • Fredselfish@lemmy.world
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        Oh I told him that and I do share mine but they hate it. Imagine being so old they think Thrid Eye Blind, Match Box Twenty, and Goo Goo Dolls is old music.

        Haven’t even got to classic rock like AC/DC, Aerosmith etc. I don’t know what to do.

      • Doxatek@mander.xyz
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        I agree with this. For some reason I am pretty personal about what I’m listening to as well. Mostly if I know the person asking me won’t/doesn’t like it I just don’t care for them to comment that they don’t like it or think it’s weird what I’m listening to. Idk

      • RGB3x3@lemmy.world
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        My favorite band is one that I tend not to tell people about because it’s too much trouble explaining what they are.

        It’s Sigur Ros, and anyone who knows them knows the struggle.

        But it’s definitely not some basic 21 Pilots that everyone knows.

          • MilitantAtheist@lemmy.world
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            Yeah. Imagine thinking Sigurd Ros is obscure music. If all you listen to us radio maybe. But if you’re at all interested in music you will have heard of them.

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            They didn’t even fill the Cobb theater in ATL the last time they came.

            They’re certainly not very popular. I don’t know anyone in real life who knows them who weren’t introduced by me.

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              Yeah I guess they aren’t as big in the US, that’s fair. But they are very popular within their genre and in Europe

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      It’s really weird to me. As a teen I loved telling the world what I was listening because it was obviously the best thing on earth, man.

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        1 year ago

        Yes, having someone who can’t answer simple basic questions that won’t affect them is really annoying.