You are not wrong. But there are things you can do to make a point. Make Reddit as a 2nd class citizen and drive people to lemmy, mastodon and the others. Like add posts with no comments, just relay bot, … Make it clear.

Same with GitHub, it’s mirror to my Gitea instance. You can see stuff but you have to move somewhere else to contribute and report issues. Not a terrible thing to use these proprietary services and yet make them 2nd class citizens.

I came here to say at least it’s not discord then I saw your comment. Yes, there s mattermost, matrix, IRC, … I am not installing Discord, I am not opening an account. I mean what s next? host your community in Skype?

I am curious why not docker? it s pretty convenient in my setup (docker compose + traefik). If I need to migrate it s really simple, if I am to nuke a service just bring it down and delete the path.

NextCloud is straight up unusable to me no matter how much resources I was throwing at it.

OpenCloud seems promising. I would definitely like to play with it a little. I would also like to check check how can I help with a thing or two there.

This seems like a similar story with matrix Synapse vs Dendrite.