Lemmy is a male-dominated platform with a misogyny problem. My posting style subverts their narrow archetypes of women (the Madonna-whore complex), which tends to trigger defensive or negative reactions.
a specific internal conflict some men experience where they view women as belonging to one of two mutually exclusive categories: the “saintly” Madonna or the “debased” whore.
my posting style makes these men think that I’m obviously trying to scam/catfish/sell something (whore) because obviously a woman who isn’t wouldn’t be on here posting stuff like that in the first place (Madonna).
i also find it quite funny cause if you’ve seen my posts and comments you can deduce that money is not something i lack… i do love attention and being an entertaining court jester but i do it purely for the love of the game, lol. also a slut purely for the love of the game.
I’m a woman, I’ve noticed that while Lemmy is better than some spaces it’s very male centric in very stereotypical ways, I love your stuff I think it’s great for exactly the reason it triggers them - the point isn’t that men are getting triggered, the point is that my perspective is being validated too!
Can we not put her on a pedestal and make her a representation of all women here?
I’ve been reading through their content and I can sort of see why people don’t like them.
I know there’s a lot of misogyny on the platform, it’s everywhere and escaping it is impossible, but I don’t necessarily think it’s the case for them? They just mostly seem disingenuous and posting for attention. People naturally tend to not like that.
Not excusing the behavior because it’s not right, but I think it could be a major problem stemming from this platform and how it’s organized. This place seems to be too small for that to be effective. The majority of the people on this site might not want to see something, but if a small group does then their activity is enough to push it to the front page anyway.
Lemmy is a male-dominated platform with a misogyny problem. My posting style subverts their narrow archetypes of women (the Madonna-whore complex), which tends to trigger defensive or negative reactions.
What is the Madonna whore complex?
a specific internal conflict some men experience where they view women as belonging to one of two mutually exclusive categories: the “saintly” Madonna or the “debased” whore.
my posting style makes these men think that I’m obviously trying to scam/catfish/sell something (whore) because obviously a woman who isn’t wouldn’t be on here posting stuff like that in the first place (Madonna).
i also find it quite funny cause if you’ve seen my posts and comments you can deduce that money is not something i lack… i do love attention and being an entertaining court jester but i do it purely for the love of the game, lol. also a slut purely for the love of the game.
Now I’m going through my knowledge of Madonna songs…
Of course there’s Like a Virgin, but then you also get more meaningful ones like Oh Father https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvVvN0QvzTk
Madonna can be complex.
I find your posting quite entertaining, keep up the good work! I’m a fan, truly.
The entire platform is nonstop triggered and posts negative reactions on any number of topics. Such is the nature of online communities and anonymity.
I love it
I’m a woman, I’ve noticed that while Lemmy is better than some spaces it’s very male centric in very stereotypical ways, I love your stuff I think it’s great for exactly the reason it triggers them - the point isn’t that men are getting triggered, the point is that my perspective is being validated too!
Keep it up
It’s kinda telling that the women on Lemmy who’ve interacted with my content like it, but the men are always the ones having an issue with it, lol.
& tyyyy🫶🫶🫶
Can we not put her on a pedestal and make her a representation of all women here?
I’ve been reading through their content and I can sort of see why people don’t like them.
I know there’s a lot of misogyny on the platform, it’s everywhere and escaping it is impossible, but I don’t necessarily think it’s the case for them? They just mostly seem disingenuous and posting for attention. People naturally tend to not like that.
Nope I’m putting them on a pedestal. Get wrecked
Who is doing this?
I get what you’re saying, but if it’s just that I think most people would just downvote or block them.
It looks like some people still feel the need to interact with OP, but seem to be capable of doing so only in very negative or aggressive ways.
Not excusing the behavior because it’s not right, but I think it could be a major problem stemming from this platform and how it’s organized. This place seems to be too small for that to be effective. The majority of the people on this site might not want to see something, but if a small group does then their activity is enough to push it to the front page anyway.