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I met my partner on a furry dating app. Since it’s a community-driven app, there’s no mechanics like swiping or paid features, you simply get a list of users sorted by distance and a bunch of filters such as last activity on the app, age, sexual orientation and so on.
Since it’s a furry app, you also rarely see what the person actually looks like, generally you’d find that out after you’ve talked for a while and decide to meet or share pictures. Instead you see their fursona, the character they created to represent themselves in that community.
All of that to say dating on that app was greatly successful vs the regular dating apps I tried, most likely because it’s not a profit driven app so it’s not trying to keep users endlessly dating. It’s not really helpful for non-furries but I imagine other internet communities could build their own version of such an app.
I wouldn’t say that apps have killed dating, more that there are fewer public third spaces to run into a potential partner coupled with far too many people wanting a quick and easy fix (like an app) for finding such places; the times I’ve seen people throw their hands up and declare it impossible to meet people because they find it difficult to google things in their area is concerning.
Remember how finding a date could be in line at a coffee shop? I wouldn’t dare interrupt someone’s day by talking to them in person. I might get arrested.
Sometimes I feel like we’ve catered our norms to anxious people and introverts…and even as an anxious introvert it fucking sucks.
Hey now… not only have they killed dating, they have also given the incel/manosphere movements tons of fuel for their lame ass causes.
About AI in dating apps. There is no real recipe for what makes a good couple, opposites sometimes do, sometimes people who are the same attract, there is no rhyme or reason so I have no idea how this AI shit is going to make anything better when it has less of a clue than we do about people. It’s just going to create more misery honestly.
I first interacted with both my ex-wives in 2004, weeks apart. OKCupid was still about detailed profiles, personality quizzes and answering thousands of questions (with preferred responses by matches listed).
My first ex was a nerdy 94% match. The second was somewhere on the order of 43%. Guess which one I still talk with daily?
The only time I’ve used modern dating apps was hanging out at my lesbian ex-girlfriend’s place. We’d get drunk and then mock women’s profiles.
